NC! Pimpin! Inspiration! Coco! MJ!

Last month I had the opportunity to travel to beautiful North Carolina to teach Improv at Duke University.

Friend Bob Kulhan owns his own company, ‘Business Improvisation’, and they have a great relationship with Duke. This year, I was chosen to be part of the team that would teach this course to business students at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business.

The course is basically a class/course in dynamic management using the basic fundamentals and beliefs of the art of Improvisation.

Bob has hired me on numerous occasions for these types of gigs at Duke as well as Columbia University in New York, but the gigs have never been longer than a couple of days with maybe a total of 6-8 hours in teaching his course.

But this time, I was chosen to do the intensive teaching course at Duke which consisted of teaching your own class from 10am to 5pm, Monday through Friday, where we also prepare our students to perform an actual show for each other at the end of the week.

I was honored to have been asked but was pretty nervous about the gig. I mean yeah, I’m comfortable teaching and besides the other gigs I’ve been on with Bob, I sub teach at iO, as well. But, it’s never longer than a 3 hour class…per week.

I’d never taught for as long as I was going to on this gig, especially to students who weren’t necessarily interested in improv. The students that signed up for this course had heard good things from past students that had taken to course, so they signed up. For some, the class is merely an elective and for some it’s a chance to make up credits needed.

So day one comes and I finally get to meet my students.

The last person to enter the classroom comes in, takes off her coat, announces she’s dropping the class, puts her coat back on, then leaves.

Oh, boy.

I quickly recovered and hit the ground running making sure I established a good sense of trust amongst the group as well as a good sense of suspension of judgment.

Thanks in large part to the wonderful students in my group, the week couldn’t have gone better.

This was easily the best teaching experience I’ve ever had.

To be able to teach the thing I love to people that don’t have a passion for it, and to have them understand where we’re coming from and find actual Value in what we teach and believe in was….wonderfully gratifying.

I’ve always believed it, but this week really solidified my beliefs that what we do has value and merit in the real world, and has the chance to make one a better person overall.

At the end of the week I silently thanked Del Close and Martin DeMaat for their dedication and for inspiring people like me to continue their work as best as we can.

Jen, Lee Anne, Javier, Yetunde, Min-Ki, Schree, Margaret, Arti, Rodnei, Adrienne, Joe, and Brandon, Thank You for helping make this a week to remember.

Eliza, Tara, James, Joe B., Sara, and Bill, thank you for the great company, laughs and tutelage.

And an even bigger Thank You to you Bob Kulhan, for giving me the opportunity to work this gig.

As for the rest of you, stay in school and say no to drugs.

Sincerely,

Professor Jaime

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While in beautiful North Carolina, (seriously, this place is beautiful) I was pretty much secluded to the Fuqua center where they have housing. Since I couldn’t really venture out, I decided to see what movie I could rent from the front desk.

I looked through their catalogue and came across the movie “Hustle & Flow”.

For some reason I never cared for this movie, especially after a rap group –a RAP group- won the Oscar for best song.

A movie about a pimp, and the song about pimpin’ wins?!?

No, thank you.

So yeah, I never made that selection on my Blockbuster trips.

But for some reason I decided to give it a shot while on this trip. Still, after I rented it, I waited 2 days before watching it, and even then I almost didn’t.

But I did.

Immediately after the movie was over I regretted not having made that decision sooner.

I REALLY liked this movie, and liked it even more watching the extras explain how the movie was made and how it almost wasn’t made.

Yes, a movie that seems to glorify pimping and degrading women can of course make one want to look the other way.

But the movie isn’t about that. It’s about a pimp that doesn’t want to pimp. He wants something better and through a series of events eventually begins to follow his actual dreams.

And that right there is what the movie is about, Following Your Dreams.

“Well, that’s fine but why does it have to be a pimp?”

That question was asked by every studio that turned it down for obvious reasons but is explained nicely in the extras. I’ll leave it at that.

I couldn’t believe that a movie I avoided for so long was one of the most inspiring movies I’ve seen in a while. It has a great simple message that most of us are often to blind to see.

It still feels silly for me to say to people that the movie “Hustle & Flow”, about a pimp, was inspirational to me, but it was, because it’s completely different than what you expect, -if you’re willing to look a little deeper into the message being delivered.

And much like the movie “8 Mile”, I see and agree why the song for the movie won the Oscar.

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“Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought what they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen”.

That was Conan O’Brien on his last show as host of “The Tonight Show”.

There’s lots of opinion and blame going around for that whole mess, so I won’t bore you with an opinion that is shared by many and that you’ve read before in different ways.

For the record, I’m a Conan fan. I’m a supporter because of the type of show he does, who he is as a person, and because I have friends that work (ed) on his show.

As stupid and cheesy as it sounds, those words he said on his last show resonate with me and made me an even bigger fan.

I’ve always found that being patient was a fault of mine. And it didn’t help that the times I decided to be more assertive and ‘promote’ myself on advice from friends, didn’t help much.

So more often than not I’ve relied on the work speaking for itself in hopes that the ‘right’ people will notice.

The few times that way of life has produced good results, have often been the best experiences of my life.

Yet, I’ve always felt that sometimes it may be necessary to do more or try to do more, but have always been afraid of pissing people off in the process.

Not knowing if what you’re doing or HOW you’re doing it is wrong can mess with your head sometimes.

But hearing Conan say those words, with the honestly and belief behind them, really made me feel good about how I sometimes lead my life and what I hope for the future.

Now more than ever I really respect and admire the guy.

I will still try to be more assertive here and there, but I will no longer feel guilty about not being the person that’s constantly in your face in hopes of getting something out of it.

I’ll simply continue to work hard and believe in the things I can do and accomplish, be kind to people and the process, and hope that living my life in a more positive way can one day produce amazing results.

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Anyone see Michael Jackson’s “This Is It”, movie/doc?

A gem.

In time, even those that remember MJ when he was sane, came to think of him as a weirdo. And if you’re even seen those weird tv specials where they give a glimpse into his life you’d have to agree: Wacko Jacko indeed.

When people talk about MJ and his weirdness they often say things like “When he was in his element, he was On.”… “He was really talented.”… “He was a true professional”… “It was when he was in show mode that he was at his best”… etc. etc. etc

When he announced his final tour, I had NO desire or curiosity about it. Because by now my memory of him wasn’t a performer, it was a weirdo trying to do what he was best known for doing a LONG time ago. Something he USED to be good at.

Almost like hearing that a great athlete wants to come out of retirement way, way, way after his prime. You know it’s going to be a circus, right?

Well hot damn if Michael didn’t prove us wrong.

I watched the movie/doc more out of curiosity about what was being said about the film.

The movie is ALL about how the show was going to be. There’s no cheesy interviews with him spouting off goofy things.

You see a man at 50 years old doing what you thought was not possible.

You see a man truly doing what he does best and you begin realize that the stage really was his life. That he was best and “normal” when on stage.

You see a man doing what you think he couldn’t do and singing –SINGING- like you thought he wouldn’t be possible of doing, -and sounding great!

Little by little you begin to enjoy watching this man in action and in his element. And little by little you begin to feel bad that this concert never happened.

In the end you wish that you’d have had a chance to see this concert

And most important, in the end you realize that this man was truly a genius of music, dance, and showmanship.

Sadly,because of opinions you may formed of the guy,  you also feel ashamed of feeling the way you do about the movie/doc and about MJ himself. But despite how ashamed you feel, you still can’t deny that what you just saw truly was a master at work.

It never made sense to hear how many drugs the guy was on in his final days and how “exhausted” he was towards the end, but watching the movie you realize why.

The man was putting everything –I mean everything, into this tour and it was going to be great. But at a price.

Personally, after watching the movie/doc, I don’t think he would have gotten anywhere close to completing a 50 show tour. But I do think the few shows he would have been able to get through would have been truly enjoyable and entertaining.

I’m not ashamed to say I watched the movie/doc and that I enjoyed the hell out of it.

And I’m also not ashamed to say that I came to respect MJ the artist a lot more than I ever thought I would.

Rest in Peace, MJ.

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Values! Frak! Humble! Thanks!

If you grew up in Chicago, then you’re a Michael Jordan fan. Thanks to my friend Julian, I had the pleasure of seeing Jordan play while still in a Bulls uniform. (A good game too: a playoff game against the Utah Jazz.)

There have been plenty of “next Jordan’s”, since, but no real threat to Jordan’s legacy.

Then came LeBron James.

Ever since the hype started, I started to resent LeBron, but mostly out of silly selfish reasons. I just didn’t want anyone to take Jordan’s place so fast. I couldn’t deny his talents, but I still refused to be a fan. Yup, I was a hater.

Last week my friend Louie and I went to go see the documentary “More Than a Game”.

It’s a movie that documents LeBron’s high school basketball team, known as the “Akron Five”, and their 9 year journey of trials and tribulations together as friends and teammates.

If you’ve ever heard of this movie and simply referred to it as that “LeBron James movie”, you couldn’t be more wrong. Because it’s about much more than just him, it’s about a group of people, and their dedication to one another and a common goal.

Along with being a very good heart warming story, this movie gives an astounding example of what Family, Friendship, and being part of a Team truly is about.

Do you work in the corporate world and are part of a department that’s just a branch of a bigger department where everyone is “supposed” to work together as a Team to achieve one common goal or service -but yet never seems to be that way?

Then invite your department to go see this movie as a group outing.

If you’re at all interested in Improvisation, and/or, are in a Improv group already, then it would benefit you –and your group- greatly to see this movie to help you better understand what being part of a team really is about, and how important those that surround you truly are.

If you belong to any sort of group whatsoever, go see this movie.

I was reluctant to be a fan of LeBron before I saw this movie. But now I highly respect him as a person as well as an athlete, and will root for him the next time he gets close to achieving his next goal: an NBA Championship.

Jordan is still the Man, though.

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I’ve only dressed up once for Halloween as an adult. A couple of years ago I was ‘Ponch’ from “CHiPs”. I actually rented the costume and really enjoyed myself. (See me and Holly below)

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Last year I did some cheesy mustache-creepy-guy thing, so I don’t really count that. (See me and Tabs below)
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This year, as Halloween was approaching, I didn’t think I was going to dress up.
Then, two days before the 31st, it hit me: I want to be Admiral Adama from ‘Battlestar Galactica’.

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If you ever heard of the remake of this show and thought to yourself: “Man, F that noise!
That battlestar stuff is for nerds and I wanna punch them!”, I know how you feel. I’ve been hearing about this show for a long time and hear my friends talk about it a lot.
Eventually I started to look into it and it turns out it was one of the hottest shows on tv (it ended recently).

A couple of months ago friend Jason was leaving town for a month and offered to Netflix the first season of the show for me.

Hooked.

HOOOOO-ked!!!

This is one of the best shows I’ve ever followed. It would take forever for me to write to try to convey how cool this show is and how and WHY people love this show.

So trust me, watch it and buy me a beer later as a thank you. Mater of fact, buy the beer now cause I know you’re gonna love it.

AAAaannnnyway…
So I went on the internet trying to look for his costume, but couldn’t find anything. The  day ended with me giving up.

Later that night I decided to give it one more shot by going a different route.

So Friday the 30th I woke up early and hit the streets. But the streets were ready for me. It was pouring rain pretty bad, but Admiral Adama would not give up, so neither did I.

So I set out on what became a 4 ½ hour journey through heavy rain and wind.

First stop: Ragstop on Belmont. I found a ‘old timey” cop costume with the works, but I was only after the jacket. I tried it on, messed with it to see how big it was, etc., and I bought the costume for 25 bucks.

I then scoured the neighborhood looking for tailors who would be able to help me alter the jacket to my needs. 2 ½ hours later –and the last one I was going to visit- I found a place.
The lady took a look at some pics I showed her on my iPhone, listened to what I wanted done to it, and told me to come back in 3 hours.

Earlier in the day I asked friend Jason if he knew where I could find some patches. He didn’t, but suggested why not print them? So after dropping my jacket at the tailor I headed to Kinkos and went over several images before I found the one’s I thought would work best. I printed them, laminated them, and cut them out to their sizes.

Later I picked up my jacket and it looked great. I bought some Velcro, went home, and carefully placed the images I printed out on the jacket using Velcro.

I tried it on and…presto! I was Admiral Adama.

Here are some images of the costume and the “pins” and “patches I made”.
(I refuse to do the picture-of-me-while-holding-my-camera-in-front-of-a-mirror thing, so you just get this)

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(I’ll upload some of me in full costume later)

I felt really proud of myself and not bad at all at the nerd I had become that day. I went to a party that night and felt really good at the reception my costume got from my friends.
I went to bar party the next day and had some strangers recognize my costume, which felt pretty cool too.

Halloween is over but I’m not getting rid of my creation. So if you have a costume party anytime between now and the next Halloween, invite me and I guarantee that Admiral Adama will proudly make an appearance.

So Say We All.

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The iO theater had auditions last weekend. There’s a person that auditioned that frankly didn’t need to, but felt that it was appropriate to do so to not only respect the process, but to also maybe help change some of the perceptions there have been about him for some time.
It was weird for me to see him go through the process because I know how he must have felt. With things like this there can be a twinge of embarrassment, a hit to the ego, and a humility that can be hard to accept and succumb to.

But he went through the process without a hint of self-righteousness or entitlement, and of course did great.

We were all very proud of him and decided that rather than put him through the process of a call back, to just go ahead and place him on an existing team.

After every group that auditioned, we told them that call-backs were the next day and that if we’d like to see them again, they would get a call a little later in the day.

Because we had decided to place this one person on a team already, I didn’t include him in my list of people to call back. But like the dummy that I am, I forgot to call him at all.

Close to midnight that same day, I was at a Halloween party and it hit me: “Shit!”
I immediately started to send texts to see who might have his number and luckily got a pretty quick response. I texted him to let him know what we decided to do and apologized for not having called him sooner.

I know too well that it’s very hard to accept not getting a call knowing you did well in an audition and were doing everything in your power to do things the right way and respect the process. Confusion sets in and resentment starts knocking on the door.

So I felt –and still feel- horrible imagining that I may have put someone through something like that.

If I did, I hope he understands it was a mistake and I, for one, am proud of him and highly respect his way of going about getting back to the place he feels he belongs and is at Home.

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I just finished the final season of The Wire. After resisting it for so long, I finally gave in and it quickly became my favorite show ever.
How this show never got an Emmy is beyond me.

Thank you Mr. David Simon for a wonderful show and for trying to show America what is happening in their own back yard day after day.